by Esmerelda Weatherwax
I keep hearing about this modern phenomenon “the kidult”. Supposedly someone who is old enough to know better who has not yet grown up. Where have I heard that? I thought. Not from my late parents but from certain relatives of the born middle aged variety. I get “When are you going to get your hair cut? You can’t still have long hair when you are 30/40/50/55” (I am now 54) from my older and bossy cousin. I think “When are you going to stop dying yours, you can’t have bottle blonde hair at 60?” but I say nothing. Because she cannot accuse me of “needing to grow up”. Not with my and my husband’s track record of responsible work history, proven family responsibility (coping with illness, bereavement, childrearing etc.) and all round reliability. more...
An interesting article. I read the piece by Richard Herring, whom I saw perform at the Edinburgh Festival.
I agree that the right to be "childlike" needs to be earned, and there is a huge difference between "childlike" and "childish". Childish behaviour in adults grates if they're just spoilt. Saudi Arabia is full of big kids - and that is not to trivialise the damage they do. A big baby is a selfish psychopath.
In a way, a sure sign of being grown-up is that you don't need to pretend, so you can laugh at fart jokes.
You become a kidult two years after obtaining your majority. Hence the well-known phrase "23 kidult" which, worn down by time, became "23 skidoo."